Archive for September, 2011

RESOLVE launched a very important initiative this week.  We need 7,300 people to sign a petition that will accompany a letter being sent directly to Secretary Sebelius at The Department of Health and Human Services (HHS).

Right now there is an important discussion happening at HHS, and we want to make sure people with infertility are included in that discussion.  The Essential Health Benefits, part of the Affordable Care Act, will be determined this year.  We have a small window of time to ensure that infertility treatments are considered an Essential Health Benefit by our government.

Tell HHS and Secretary Sebelius that you want to make sure that infertility treatment is an essential health benefit and that people with infertility matter!

Sign the Petition NOW!

Once you sign the petition, we will add your name to the list. Don’t forget to share the petition with everyone who cares about you!



Read Full Post »

I feel like I need to address secondary infertility given I am seeing much more of it lately and for most people this is hard for them to understand.

Secondary infertility is also defined as an inability to get pregnant after about a year of frequent, unprotected sex. The difference here, though, is that secondary infertility refers to trouble getting pregnant after having already gotten pregnant and had a child in the past.

This can lead to frustration just as infertility for couples who do not have children, as it may leave couples even more confused as to why they cannot get pregnant after having done so already. It often sneaks up on people and can lead to a good deal of stress just like infertility can be stressful for couples who do not have children. Note that secondary infertility may not be present if one’s partner has changed since their first pregnancy.

The causes of secondary infertility are similar to those of primary infertility, as it may include problems with the production, function or the delivery of sperm. As for female infertility, it may be caused by fallopian tube problems, ovulation problems, endometriosis or various uterine conditions.

Don’t forget that changes in various lifestyle habits or risk factors, such as advanced age, weight or taking medications may affect infertility after having already gotten pregnant. Certain problems or complications from a previous pregnancy may lead to problems with getting pregnant in the future.

Whether you’re experiencing primary or secondary infertility, it’s important to seek consultation with a trained healthcare professional specializing in fertility and reproduction. You may be put through various tests and evaluations to help determine the cause of the problem so that you may begin considering and exploring different treatment options.

Don’t be too embarrassed to seek help. Secondary infertility is nothing new to fertility specialists. They deal with it all of the time. A good support system can also go a long way in dealing with secondary infertility, so talking with your partner, friends and others you trust can be helpful, too. I find groups or individual therapy critical for clients going through this.  There is no need to feel guilty because you have one child already…it is still a loss every month and can be more isolating because not even the women that are struggling to have one child will understand.

Treating secondary infertility is the same as treating primary infertility. Fertility drugs may be used to boost egg production, while intrauterine insemination (IUI) and in vitro fertilization (IVF) may be used to achieve pregnancy, too. Surgical procedures may be necessary to repair damaged or blocked fallopian tubes or to remove certain fibroids or endometriosis deposits. Just like with primary infertility, the preferred treatment methods for secondary infertility vary depending on the cause of the condition. For this reason, it’s important to seek professional consultation.

Read Full Post »

The mistake, commonly made by most people and it’s a doozie; “Just relax,” while big among well-meaning bystanders, minimizes your friends/daughters/siblings fears and frustrations.  It ignores the many possible medical angles of infertility, asks her to do the undoable (when was the last time you relaxed when told to relax?) and, last but most, implies that she’s to blame for not getting pregnant because she’s too uptight.

We know, we know, you didn’t mean any of these things. But you need to tell them that explicitly, as you apologize for your thoughtless response. And “thoughtless” is the right word for it, versus “shallow.”

When you do apologize, you’ll get a chance to respond thoughtfully. To inform that response, read up at resolve.org, the website of the National Infertility Association. Under the “Support & Services” menu, select the page for family and friends.

While the complexities this page lays out are real and emotionally fraught, the purpose in understanding them is simple: so you can acknowledge their fears, offer your nonjudgmental support, and follow their lead on what they do and don’t want to discuss.

The infertility topic may be new to you and/or have you feeling self-conscious, but the blueprint is the same: get informed, validate, don’t judge, follow her lead.
Read more: http://www.seattlepi.com/lifestyle/advice/article/Hax-What-not-to-say-to-people-struggling-with-2167362.php#ixzz1Z6yBOtnI

Read Full Post »